|Do you feel like a chameleon sometimes?|
"Once upon a time, there was an elderly man who had a farm. He didn't have anyone to help but a young lad. The lad although very hard working was just too young, and didn't have the strength needed for the tasks in the farm.
They heard of a fair in town and decided to go. There they found a nice and strong donkey to help out in the farm. They bought the donkey and were delighted with it!
On the way back the old man and the boy rode the donkey. They were less than a mile down the road when a group of people drove by, and started mocking them shouting, "Poor donkey! Ha-ha! Shame on you both, riding the poor thing."
Then the old man decided to get off the donkey. Another mile down the road four guys passed by and nodded their heads saying, "Look at that elderly man! He's walking while the young and strong boy rides on the donkey. What a disgrace!"
Now the old man decided to get the boy off the donkey. The old man rode the donkey and the boy was following them. They were getting close to the farm when some neighbors pointing at the elderly man, said, "I feel sorry for the lad, walking while this guy rides the donkey."
By now the old man got off and thought that maybe he should carry the donkey on his shoulder!"
*** And the moral of the story is...
No matter what you do, there will always be people who will not like it, or will think you should do more, or that you should do things differently. You cannot please everybody at all times! It's an impossible mission! You've got to realize that some people will never be pleased, no matter what... so stop trying to impress who will never be impressed!
The addiction of pleasing people is joy robbing and highly stressful.
Unfortunately, for many of us it all starts in our home, with our parents... some parents are just soooo demanding and impossible to please. They Never see anything good in their children, never compliment them... Then the children grow up trying to get the approval of everybody... every time. Frustrating and miserable!
I'm a human being, and I don't like when people don't like me, or find fault in me... I want to be liked and appreciated (everyone does, even if they say they don't!). But I used to be soooo concerned about people's opinion that it was like prison... It's definitely unhealthy to think about what others will say before doing anything at all!
The Bible says we should honor each other, and love others like we do ourselves, but it never said we should be driven by the need of pleasing everybody - it's impossible!
"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody." (Bill Cosby)
So, after many years of frustration I made a choice to please God first - chances are that if you please Him first in everything, you will be nice to people, and will be mindful of them without being addicted to their approval.
Dear reader, I want you to be free and happy, God wants that too.
I'll leave you with this verse that is my life's moto:
"Furthermore, brethren, we beg and admonish you in [virtue of our union with] the Lord Jesus, that [you follow the instructions which] you learned from us about how you ought to walk so as to please and gratify God, as indeed you are doing, [and] that you do so even more and more abundantly [attaining yet greater perfection in living this life]." (1 Tes. 4:1 Amplified Bible)
Please God ought to be our priority number one... and it sure brings freedom and happiness!
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***I recommend a book called "Approval Addiction" by Joyce Meyer. very very good!
Pr Raquel Davis