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terça-feira, 28 de agosto de 2012

The Pursuit of Happiness

Hello folks, dear readers!

Well, decided to give it a go and write this post  in English and give some of you a rest from google translator! 
Promise to write in my best English... lol
As some of you know well, I suffered with depression for almost seven years and when you battle depression, you forget what is like to be happy and to enjoy life! In fact depression is not caused by the pressure without but by the pressure within! I remembered being surrounded by people but feeling hopelessly lonely, I remember dreading the morning because it meant I had another day to feel sad and desperate...
It's funny to look back and remember myself doing 'church' things while my heart was broken... you know  what I mean, don't you? - singing a song, clapping, helping out with Tea and Coffee, maybe even teaching in Sunday class... but my faith in life was weak and I was feeling helpless.

Ever felt like that, dear reader? Maybe your scenario was a little different, you were catering for your family, perhaps helping your community or maybe you were trying to have a good time with your friends in a pub or night club... different scenarios same demon = depression!

Praise God I was healed from that long time ago, and now I can go and help other people suffering from the same thing. I can be kind to them, and not judge them for feeling miserable and hopeless - been there and bought the T-Shirt myself! Religion taught me God is an angry God, but the Bible has something quite different to say about that. True Christianity is about love, grace and joy and God is a God of relationship. The revelation of that set me free!  Let's just remember that the First miracle Jesus performed was in a wedding party and not in a funeral!!! He made wine (regardless of your personal opinion on alcohol, fact is that He made a pretty good one!) so the joy and happiness, laughter and dance could go on as it was supposed to. 

The Pursuit of Happiness...

I found out that we all want to be happy - we have that in common. Regardless of our culture, skin color or background, we  all want to belong and to be happy! Different times, same desires. As I always teach, happiness is not just a fuzzy feeling but is a conscious decision that should not depend on your life's circumstances. When I am giving a talk in a crowd of women, for example, I use to ask them to fill in the blank: "When I ..................., then I will be happy." It's funny because most of them (and I was there at some point in my own life too), are waiting for some change in their lives in order to be happy.  If you need everything to be perfect in your life to be happy, I've got news for you: You will never be HAPPY! That's why you need to make a decision NOW and just go ahead and be happy despite of your problems and circumstances. That's the secret. That's how I got out of the pit of depression.
You have to start every day saying: "God created this day for me to enjoy and be happy. I decide to be happy today despite of all my circumstances. I choose happiness. Nothing is going to rob my joy and peace." 

Here is 30 tips for happiness by L. Babauta., and I add my 31st Tip too. Start on these today and let me know how you get on!
All the best!

  • Experiment to find out what makes you happy.
    Different things make different people happy. If you aren't sure what your hot spots are, experiment. Try different things out. Find out what you enjoy most. The answers just might surprise you. Try a few of the following for starters.

  • Surround yourself with others who are happy
    If you are around angry, depressed or sad people, it will transfer to you. You can't help it. But if you're around people who are happy, that will also transfer to you. You'll also learn their habits, and learn to react the way they do when something bad happens. Slowly weed out the negative influences on your life and replace them with positive ones.

  • Count your blessings
    When something bad happens to you, try not to focus on it. Instead, take a minute to count your blessings. Everyone has good things in their lives, whether it is health or loved ones or whatever.

  • Gratitude sessions
    Along those lines, it is a good practice to have a daily gratitude session. Think about what you have to be thankful for, and silently thank those who have done something good for you in some way. If you have time, take the time to call them or email them to thank them.

  • Think solutions
    Instead of thinking about problems, move to the next step: how to solve it. When someone says to me, "Oh, this is so hard," or "Oh, I can't seem to do this," or "Man, we don't have any more of that," I just ask them, "Well, what's the solution?" If you develop solution-oriented thinking, you'll be much happier.

  • Connect with others.
    As much as possible, spend time with those you love, and with others who you enjoy. It could be a simple phone call, or a short visit. Or take a day with the person or people you'd like to spend time with. Have a conversation, do things together, be intimate.

  • Accept things
    We are often unaware of it, but we usually want things or people or ourselves to change. And that's a sure way to lead to unhappiness, because we cannot control the world. We have to accept things as they are, try to understand them, even love them. Including and most especially ourselves.

  • Take time to savor life
    Instead of rushing from one thing to another, resolve to have less to do each day, less appointments and fewer tasks. Then do each thing slowly, with mindfulness and ease, and try to be present in the moment. And truly enjoy whatever it is you do, from talking to eating to walking to just sitting.

  • Notice small things
    Along the same lines, try to notice when you feel good, or you're not suffering, or you are tasting something really delicious, or you feel something cold or hot, anything. Noticing the little things will help keep you focused on the present.

  • Treat yourself.
    Take a few minutes each day to give yourself a little treat, whether that's something like chocolate or berries, or a bubble bath, or walking barefoot in the grass, or taking a nap. Whatever it is, treat yourself. You deserve it.

  • This shall pass.
    When bad things happen, and you're having trouble accepting it, think to yourself the same thing the ancients did: "This, too, shall pass." And it will. And you'll survive.

  • Volunteer.
    When you give to others, whether that's money or the stuff you no longer need or your time and love, you become happier. It's true. Take 5 minutes today to call a charity and volunteer to donate some time sometime this month. It will make a big difference in your life.

  • Follow your passions.
    If you do what you love to do, especially for a living, you will be extremely happy. This is one of the best things you can do. If it seems impossible, don't give up. Others have done it and you can too.

  • Look at your achievements.
    Instead of looking at what you haven't done, or what you've failed at, think about what you have done. Many times that's much more than we realize.

  • Laugh.
    Just the simple act of laughing can make you happier. Watch a funny movie, tell jokes, read a book by Douglas Adams or Terry Pratchett, go to humor sites on the Internet. And laugh your head off.

  • Realize that you deserve it.
    You deserve happiness. That simple statement is actually profound for many people, as they don't believe they really deserve to be happy. It's often unconscious. If you feel that within yourself, you need to first realize that you deserve happiness. Repeat it if necessary.

  • Get into the flow.
    There is a state of doing known as Flow, which is when you completely lose yourself in a task and forget about the world around you. It leads to happiness, and productivity. Set yourself up for it by clearing distractions, giving yourself a challenging (but accomplishable) task, and making it something that you like doing. Then try to lose yourself in that task.

  • Have a goal.
    Too many goals will lead to ineffectiveness. Try to choose one goal and really focus on it. And work to accomplish it. Goals lead to happiness, if you make progress on them.

  • Get inspired.
    Take time to read blogs or books or magazine articles about success stories related to what you want to do. It will get you energized.

  • Celebrate.
    When you do something right, when you accomplish something, when you feel like it, reward yourself. Celebrate. Have fun, and pat yourself on the back.

  • Autonomy.
    Try to have at least one area in your life where you have autonomy. It's best if this is at work, but if not, find another place, such as a hobby or civic activity. You need to be in control of what you do to be happy.

  • Spend time doing something you love.
    Make room in your life by eliminating some of the commitments you don't really like doing, and replacing them with something you truly love.

  • Show little acts of kindness.
    Each day, try to be kind to others in little ways, opening doors, smiling, giving up your place in line.

  • Exercise.
    Just a short walk or run could lift your spirits and reduce stress. Nothing difficult. Just get outside and move.

  • Catch negative thoughts.
    Monitor your thoughts. When you catch negative ones, try to think of something good instead. Corny, but it helps.

  • Jealousy doesn't help.
    Many people obsess about others who are successful or happy. That gets you nowhere, fast. Instead, be happy for them. Then focus on yourself, and what you do right.

  • Stop watching and reading news.
    Sure, this sounds like a head-in-the-sand suggestion. But really, if you give this a try, you won't miss a thing. And instead, you can focus on reading books and listening to music that lifts you up.

  • Learn something new.
    It's strange how many of us are afraid to try new things, or admit we don't know something. But learning new skills or new information is one of the most fun things there is to do. Give it a try.

  • Check out nature.
    Go and watch a sunrise or sunset. Watch the water, whether that's a river or ocean or lake. Watch the stars, or the clouds. Watch animals. Watch people. Watch children. And be inspired by it all.

  • Laugh some more.
    When you are in the middle of a bad situation, look around you, realize the absurdity of the situation, and just laugh. In a year, no one will care. In two years, you'll be laughing at this anyway. So laugh now, and be happy now.
  • 31st  Be yourself.
  •          It takes a lot of energy trying to be someone else, or having somebody else's life ( I know what I'm talking about!). God created YOU and He wants you to be the 'Best YOU, you can be.' If your life is not all you want it to be, you can always change it! Make better choices, treat yourself with respect, learn to like yourself and work on implementing these tips above in your daily routine. I found that that's one of the reasons people are getting depressed - they want to be somebody else! It ain't happening girl! The sooner you understand that, the quicker you'll be happy!

    Hope you liked that! See you soon.

    Raquel Davis

    sábado, 18 de agosto de 2012

    Obra em Progresso! Sou eu!!!

    Olá meus queridos e fiéis leitores! 

    Fico sempre muito surpresa quando passo um tempo sem aparecer por aqui, e vejo as visitas diárias que recebo e as postagens mais visitadas. Agradeço à voces, que diariamente me visitam neste espaço, com o coração aberto e sedento por mais um pouquinho de Deus. Muito obrigada pelo carinho!
    Desculpem a demora em blogar, mas como os mais íntimos sabem, tenho estado super busy de tudo, e Deus têm me surpreendido além das minhas maiores expectativas... agradeço às orações e toda a corrente positiva que voces têm feito... continuem pois está dando muiiito certo! rsrsrs

    Minha reforma está na reta final,  pelo menos por agora... (sempre há um novo projeto em minha mente, graças ao GNT, Fox life e H and H!). Mas a reforma dentro de mim continua em progresso... 

    Derrubei algumas paredes que estavam me contendo, aumentei alguns cômodos para acomodar novas idéias e novas pessoas; Abri alguns armários e descobri muiiitas coisas velhas, estragadas e que só estavam tomando espaço e 'bloqueando' energia. Todo dia descubro um conceito ultrapassado ou um sentimento velho que tenho que colocar no lixo! Restaurei alguns muros que haviam sido derrubados - o muro da confiança, o muro da intimidade, o muro da intercessão...outros muros eu apenas derrubei e não pretendo levantá-los novamente - o muro da mágoa, o muro da decepção, o muro da indiferença. Creio que minha 'casa' fica bem mais bonita e alegre sem eles! 
    O meu arquiteto renomadíssimo, Mr Holly S. Paracletos, está trabalhando intensamente, para que toda a reforma fique pronta até o retorno do meu ídolo e herói, J.C. Quero a casa iguazinha à dele! Ele me relembra todos os dias, de que o alicerce é o mais importante, e me diz para não preocupar tanto com a fachada e objetos de decoração! Afinal, o que adianta uma fachada bonita se o resto tá feio e caindo aos pedaços?! Já vi muitas casas assim. O importante, Ele me disse, "é aproveitar cada dia dessa obra e curtir a jornada". Vejo Ele trabalhando muito no 'turno da noite', muito silencioso mas surpreendente!
    O meu arquiteto me pediu as chaves de alguns cômodos, que eu nem percebi que não havia liberado para reforma!
    Talvez voce também tenha o quartinho da bagunça, caro leitor! O meu arquiteto me alertou para não manter tais cômodos - Deus é Deus de limpeza e de ordem. Aí não teve jeito, no velho baú de lembranças, foi um monte de más recordações pra caçamba, emoções negativas, medos, e laços de alma doentios. Como é bom ter um arquiteto paciente!

    Às vezes me pego duvidando um pouco de Seu projeto em mim, e, sem querer, acabo discordando um pouco de alguns pontos no 'contrato' que Ele assinou. Aí passamos algumas horas conversando, e Ele logo me convence de que no final da obra, estarei com a casa igualzinha a do ídolo J.C. - Ele me diz, "Raquel, confie em mim, não faço nada pela metade e vou ficar com voce até o término dessa obra, e além!" É interessante, porque 'convencer' é o trabalho dele mesmo. Quantas vezes a gente quer convencer as pessoas de alguma coisa?

    Então, agora relaxei! Construção e reforma é assim mesmo!
    Tem stress, tem contra-tempo, tem gasto de tempo e de recursos, é desconfortável, é muitas vezes frustrante, tem dias que dá vontade de desistir, mas no final, com um bom construtor e arquiteto, fica tudo S-E-N-S-A-C-I-O-N-A-L!

    Como diz o maior sábio que já existiu, Rei Salomão, "Tudo tem o seu tempo determinado, e há tempo para todo o propósito debaixo do céu."  
    Eclesiastes 3:1

    Já tenho entendido que não há coisa melhor para eles do que alegrar-se e fazer bem na sua vida;
    E também que todo o homem coma e beba, e goze do bem de todo o seu trabalho; isto é um dom de Deus. Eclesiastes 3:12-13

    Para finalizar, quero como sempre, encorajar voce meu amado e fiel leitor, com algo que compartilharam comigo no Facebook:

    E voce, tá precisando reformar ou construir algo em sua vida? Tem algum 'quartinho' escuro que precisa ser limpo e aberto?

    até a próxima!

    Pra. R. davis


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