Spiritual Life Coach? Coach de Vida Espiritual?

Hello my friends!
Find and follow your spiritual path and become all you' re meant to be!
I am a non-denominational Spiritual Life Coach.
Spiritual life coaches incorporate an investigation of spirituality into their sessions to help clients find meaning and purpose in life. They provide support and guidance as their clients begin or continue their spiritual journeys.
Spiritual Life coaches begin their work by identifying each client's values and goals. They might then analyze the client's life to identify obstacles that are hindering the client's happiness and progress, and develop a plan of action to guide the client through this change. Life coaches use encouragement throughout the process in order to empower their clients and help them reach their goals, with a Spiritual approach, always.

Eu sou uma "Coach de Vida Espiritual Nao-Denominacional" (non-denominational Spiritual Life Coach).
Spiritual Life Coaches incorporam uma investigação da espiritualidade em suas sessões para ajudar os clientes a encontrarem significado e propósito na vida. Eles oferecem apoio e orientação `a medida que os seus clientes iniciam ou continuam suas jornadas espirituais.
Spiritual Life Coaches começam o seu trabalho através da identificação de valores e objetivos de cada cliente. Eles podem, então, analisar a vida do cliente para identificar os obstáculos que estão impedindo a felicidade e o progresso do cliente, e desenvolver um plano de ação para orientar o cliente através desta mudança. Como uma "Spiritual Life Coach" (Coach de Vida Espiritual), eu uso o incentivo em todo o processo, a fim de capacitar meus clientes e ajudá-los a alcançar seus objetivos, com uma abordagem espiritual, sempre.
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Raquel  Menezes
Site: www.spiritualcoachraquelmenezes.com
(Master Coach Practitioner NLP, spiritual counselor and pastor)

Self-Esteem

Learn how to bounce back!

Overcome! Bounce back!

When I was a little girl about eight years old, I loved to play volleyball and basketball on the street with my friends.
Sometimes we didn't have appropriate ball and we used the old footballs that boys no longer wanted to play with... 
The problem was that old and deflated  balls don't bounce! Have you ever tried to play volleyball or basketball with a bounceless  ball? Then you know it's horrible!!

One day my mom surprised me with a brand new volleyball she bought out of the local supermarket... I called all my friends to play ball and we did it for hours non stop . We were so accustomed to the old deflated balls we put too much power when serving with the new ball - it bounced easily! It's really great to play with a bouncy ball!

Few years ago I was thinking about my life and about some sad and terrible things I went through... I was ready to give up "The game of life"...

Something (God?) made me remember the old days of playing ball with my little friends... a thought crossed my overwhelmed mind: 

"You gotta learn how to bounce back!"

Yes! That's it! 

When something contrary or bad (or both!) happen to us we need to learn how to bounce back! We cannot just sit there inert and take the blows...

That was exactly what I did in years past! I learnt how to bounce back! And the more pressure and power life put on me the more I bounced, higher and further I went!

Some examples flashed through mine mind: 

When I was inert during my adolescence due to the sexual abuse I suffered when I was only a little girl... I had to learn how to bounce back and stop being a victim.

When depression wanted slowly to suck life out of me for seven years... I had to learn how to bounce back and decided to be happy.

When I "bet all my chips"  sixteen years ago in a relationship with someone who fooled me and cheated on me, simply because he was too coward to "get out of the closet"... I had to learn how to bounce back.

When faced with other life challenges and opportunities to do something out of the ordinary, I decided to invest in my long forgotten dream of moving to London and finishing my English course... and I learnt how to bounce back.

...So in a flash my life passed  through mine mind like a film...and once more hope and encouragement begun to fill my heart again. I saw that adversity and set backs don't need to be the end of anything...It all depends on the window you see things through...

Right now I have to remind myself of this lesson... I am going through some frustrating moments and major setbacks... I gotta learn how to bounce back!

What challenges are you going through today? Do you feel overwhelmed with your present circumstances? Do you feel like giving up?

Don't give up! Let God teach you how to bounce back. Learn how to use the pressure life is putting on you to go higher and further out of your problems.

Today, second week of a new year... this phrase still burns in my heart - "You gotta learn how to bounce back."

After all who likes a 'deflated ball' anyway?!?

See you next time,

Raquel Davis

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Mission Impossible!

Hello again Dear Reader!

Do you feel like a chameleon sometimes?

"Once upon a time, there was an elderly man who had a farm. He didn't have anyone to help but a young lad. The lad although very hard working was just too young, and didn't have the strength needed for the tasks in the farm.
They heard of a fair in town and decided to go. There they found a nice and strong donkey to help out in the farm. They bought the donkey and were delighted with it!
On the way back the old man and the boy rode the donkey. They were less than a mile down the road when a group of people drove by, and started mocking them shouting, "Poor donkey! Ha-ha! Shame on you both, riding the poor thing."

Then the old man decided to get off the donkey. Another mile down the road four guys passed by and nodded their heads saying, "Look at that elderly man! He's walking while the young and strong boy rides on the donkey. What a disgrace!"

Now the old man decided to get the boy off the donkey. The old man rode the donkey and the boy was following them. They were getting close to the farm when some neighbors pointing at the elderly man, said, "I feel sorry for the lad, walking while this guy rides the donkey."

By now the old man got off and thought that maybe he should carry the donkey on his shoulder!"

*** And the moral of the story is...

No matter what you do, there will always be people who will not like it, or will think you should do more, or that you should do things differently. You cannot please everybody at all times! It's an impossible mission! You've got to realize that some people will never be pleased, no matter what... so stop trying to impress who will never be impressed!
The addiction of pleasing people is joy robbing and highly stressful.
Unfortunately, for many of us it all starts in our home, with our parents... some parents are just soooo demanding and impossible to please. They Never see anything good in their children, never compliment them... Then the children grow up trying to get the approval of everybody... every time. Frustrating and miserable!

I'm a human being, and I don't like when people don't like me, or find fault in me... I want to be liked and appreciated (everyone does, even if they say they don't!). But I used to be soooo concerned about people's opinion that it was like prison... It's definitely unhealthy to think about what others will say before doing anything at all!

The Bible says we should honor each other, and love others like we do ourselves, but it never said we should be driven by the need of pleasing everybody - it's impossible!

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody." (Bill Cosby)

So, after many years of frustration I made a choice to please God first - chances are that if you please Him first in everything, you will be nice to people, and will be mindful of them without being addicted to their approval.

Dear reader, I want you to be free and happy, God wants that too.
I'll leave you with this verse that is my life's moto: 

"Furthermore, brethren, we beg and admonish you in [virtue of our union with] the Lord Jesus, that [you follow the instructions which] you learned from us about how you ought to walk so as to please and gratify God, as indeed you are doing, [and] that you do so even more and more abundantly [attaining yet greater perfection in living this life]." (1 Tes. 4:1 Amplified Bible)

Please God ought to be our priority number one... and it sure brings freedom and happiness!

Wanna share your thoughts on this? Leave your comment please!

***I recommend a book called "Approval Addiction" by Joyce Meyer. very very good!


Pr Raquel Davis

The Pursuit of Happiness

Hello folks, dear readers!

Well, decided to give it a go and write this post  in English and give some of you a rest from google translator! 
Promise to write in my best English... lol
As some of you know well, I suffered with depression for almost seven years and when you battle depression, you forget what is like to be happy and to enjoy life! In fact depression is not caused by the pressure without but by the pressure within! I remembered being surrounded by people but feeling hopelessly lonely, I remember dreading the morning because it meant I had another day to feel sad and desperate...
It's funny to look back and remember myself doing 'church' things while my heart was broken... you know  what I mean, don't you? - singing a song, clapping, helping out with Tea and Coffee, maybe even teaching in Sunday class... but my faith in life was weak and I was feeling helpless.

Ever felt like that, dear reader? Maybe your scenario was a little different, you were catering for your family, perhaps helping your community or maybe you were trying to have a good time with your friends in a pub or night club... different scenarios same demon = depression!


Praise God I was healed from that long time ago, and now I can go and help other people suffering from the same thing. I can be kind to them, and not judge them for feeling miserable and hopeless - been there and bought the T-Shirt myself! Religion taught me God is an angry God, but the Bible has something quite different to say about that. True Christianity is about love, grace and joy and God is a God of relationship. The revelation of that set me free!  Let's just remember that the First miracle Jesus performed was in a wedding party and not in a funeral!!! He made wine (regardless of your personal opinion on alcohol, fact is that He made a pretty good one!) so the joy and happiness, laughter and dance could go on as it was supposed to. 


The Pursuit of Happiness...

I found out that we all want to be happy - we have that in common. Regardless of our culture, skin color or background, we  all want to belong and to be happy! Different times, same desires. As I always teach, happiness is not just a fuzzy feeling but is a conscious decision that should not depend on your life's circumstances. When I am giving a talk in a crowd of women, for example, I use to ask them to fill in the blank: "When I ..................., then I will be happy." It's funny because most of them (and I was there at some point in my own life too), are waiting for some change in their lives in order to be happy.  If you need everything to be perfect in your life to be happy, I've got news for you: You will never be HAPPY! That's why you need to make a decision NOW and just go ahead and be happy despite of your problems and circumstances. That's the secret. That's how I got out of the pit of depression.
You have to start every day saying: "God created this day for me to enjoy and be happy. I decide to be happy today despite of all my circumstances. I choose happiness. Nothing is going to rob my joy and peace." 

Here is 30 tips for happiness by L. Babauta., and I add my 31st Tip too. Start on these today and let me know how you get on!
All the best!

Experiment to find out what makes you happy.
Different things make different people happy. If you aren't sure what your hot spots are, experiment. Try different things out. Find out what you enjoy most. The answers just might surprise you. Try a few of the following for starters.

Surround yourself with others who are happy. 
If you are around angry, depressed or sad people, it will transfer to you. You can't help it. But if you're around people who are happy, that will also transfer to you. You'll also learn their habits, and learn to react the way they do when something bad happens. Slowly weed out the negative influences on your life and replace them with positive ones.

Count your blessings. 
When something bad happens to you, try not to focus on it. Instead, take a minute to count your blessings. Everyone has good things in their lives, whether it is health or loved ones or whatever.

Gratitude sessions. 
Along those lines, it is a good practice to have a daily gratitude session. Think about what you have to be thankful for, and silently thank those who have done something good for you in some way. If you have time, take the time to call them or email them to thank them.

Think solutions. 
Instead of thinking about problems, move to the next step: how to solve it. When someone says to me, "Oh, this is so hard," or "Oh, I can't seem to do this," or "Man, we don't have any more of that," I just ask them, "Well, what's the solution?" If you develop solution-oriented thinking, you'll be much happier.

Connect with others.
As much as possible, spend time with those you love, and with others who you enjoy. It could be a simple phone call, or a short visit. Or take a day with the person or people you'd like to spend time with. Have a conversation, do things together, be intimate.

Accept things. 
We are often unaware of it, but we usually want things or people or ourselves to change. And that's a sure way to lead to unhappiness, because we cannot control the world. We have to accept things as they are, try to understand them, even love them. Including and most especially ourselves.

Take time to savor life. 
Instead of rushing from one thing to another, resolve to have less to do each day, less appointments and fewer tasks. Then do each thing slowly, with mindfulness and ease, and try to be present in the moment. And truly enjoy whatever it is you do, from talking to eating to walking to just sitting.

Notice small things. 
Along the same lines, try to notice when you feel good, or you're not suffering, or you are tasting something really delicious, or you feel something cold or hot, anything. Noticing the little things will help keep you focused on the present.

Treat yourself.
Take a few minutes each day to give yourself a little treat, whether that's something like chocolate or berries, or a bubble bath, or walking barefoot in the grass, or taking a nap. Whatever it is, treat yourself. You deserve it.

This shall pass.
When bad things happen, and you're having trouble accepting it, think to yourself the same thing the ancients did: "This, too, shall pass." And it will. And you'll survive.

Volunteer.
When you give to others, whether that's money or the stuff you no longer need or your time and love, you become happier. It's true. Take 5 minutes today to call a charity and volunteer to donate some time sometime this month. It will make a big difference in your life.

Follow your passions.
If you do what you love to do, especially for a living, you will be extremely happy. This is one of the best things you can do. If it seems impossible, don't give up. Others have done it and you can too.

Look at your achievements.
Instead of looking at what you haven't done, or what you've failed at, think about what you have done. Many times that's much more than we realize.

Laugh.
Just the simple act of laughing can make you happier. Watch a funny movie, tell jokes, read a book by Douglas Adams or Terry Pratchett, go to humor sites on the Internet. And laugh your head off.

Realize that you deserve it.
You deserve happiness. That simple statement is actually profound for many people, as they don't believe they really deserve to be happy. It's often unconscious. If you feel that within yourself, you need to first realize that you deserve happiness. Repeat it if necessary.

Get into the flow.
There is a state of doing known as Flow, which is when you completely lose yourself in a task and forget about the world around you. It leads to happiness, and productivity. Set yourself up for it by clearing distractions, giving yourself a challenging (but accomplishable) task, and making it something that you like doing. Then try to lose yourself in that task.

Have a goal.
Too many goals will lead to ineffectiveness. Try to choose one goal and really focus on it. And work to accomplish it. Goals lead to happiness, if you make progress on them.

Get inspired.
Take time to read blogs or books or magazine articles about success stories related to what you want to do. It will get you energized.

Celebrate.
When you do something right, when you accomplish something, when you feel like it, reward yourself. Celebrate. Have fun, and pat yourself on the back.

Autonomy.
Try to have at least one area in your life where you have autonomy. It's best if this is at work, but if not, find another place, such as a hobby or civic activity. You need to be in control of what you do to be happy.

Spend time doing something you love.
Make room in your life by eliminating some of the commitments you don't really like doing, and replacing them with something you truly love.

Show little acts of kindness.
Each day, try to be kind to others in little ways, opening doors, smiling, giving up your place in line.

Exercise.
Just a short walk or run could lift your spirits and reduce stress. Nothing difficult. Just get outside and move.

Catch negative thoughts.
Monitor your thoughts. When you catch negative ones, try to think of something good instead. Corny, but it helps.

Jealousy doesn't help.
Many people obsess about others who are successful or happy. That gets you nowhere, fast. Instead, be happy for them. Then focus on yourself, and what you do right.

Stop watching and reading news.
Sure, this sounds like a head-in-the-sand suggestion. But really, if you give this a try, you won't miss a thing. And instead, you can focus on reading books and listening to music that lifts you up.

Learn something new.
It's strange how many of us are afraid to try new things, or admit we don't know something. But learning new skills or new information is one of the most fun things there is to do. Give it a try.

Check out nature.
Go and watch a sunrise or sunset. Watch the water, whether that's a river or ocean or lake. Watch the stars, or the clouds. Watch animals. Watch people. Watch children. And be inspired by it all.

Laugh some more.
When you are in the middle of a bad situation, look around you, realize the absurdity of the situation, and just laugh. In a year, no one will care. In two years, you'll be laughing at this anyway. So laugh now, and be happy now.

31st  Be yourself.

         It takes a lot of energy trying to be someone else, or having somebody else's life ( I know what I'm talking about!). God created YOU and He wants you to be the 'Best YOU, you can be.' If your life is not all you want it to be, you can always change it! Make better choices, treat yourself with respect, learn to like yourself and work on implementing these tips above in your daily routine. I found that that's one of the reasons people are getting depressed - they want to be somebody else! It ain't happening girl! The sooner you understand that, the quicker you'll be happy!

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Hope you liked that! See you soon.

Raquel Davis